Dear Bobby

[serai]

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It was forty years ago today.

Just about this time, in fact. It was dark outside. I don't remember much, because I was only seven years old. But there are a few things I remember, and that's one of them. The lights were on in our living room, and they reflected off the windows because it was dark outside.

The other thing I remember clearly is my mom. She was young and pretty then, with dark hair that she always wore pulled back into a long braid, tied with a length of black elastic. She was sitting on our green sofa, in front of the TV. Her head was bowed into one hand, and she was crying. My mom didn't cry very often, so I remember that. My dad stood behind her, his face stony with grief. I remember how his forehead was drawn up tight the way it always got when he was angry, and he didn't say anything for the longest time.

The one thing I don't remember very clearly is you. I was so young, you see, and my parents kept us very sheltered when we were small, so I knew little of the world of big people. I knew your face from the TV, vaguely. You were young and handsome, and my parents always smiled when you appeared. There were always crowds around you, and it seemed you made people happy.

Even though I was too little to really know what was going on in the world, I remember that 1968 was a year when things were building up. It seemed like we were climbing somehow, upwards into sunlight. There were bad things and good things and crazy things, out there in the world, but I was being raised with a basic hopefulness about life and the future, probably because of my parents' immigrant contentment at being in this country, with a nice little house and good weather and good schools. The world was a good place when I was growing up, and America was a good place, and I couldn't imagine even wanting to be anywhere else.

And then the gun came up and you were taken away, and my mom cried, and I was scared because she wouldn't tell me what was wrong at first. Even when she told me, I didn't understand. But over the following days and weeks and years, the sunlight wasn't so bright anymore, and even though the future still seemed alright, it didn't have that golden tone, the blue-and-white cleanliness I had imagined it would have, the taste of bright clean water and the promise of tomorrow. It took long years before I understood that that may have been our last chance. That you were our last chance, and that our fate was violently pushed aside that night, off the sunlit upward path and down into a dark forest, a place where monsters dwell.

I wish I could have known you. I wish I could have remembered you - the words you spoke, the dreams you made people dream, the hope you gave us. Because there was so much of it that year. It was everywhere, filtering down into so many lives, even that of a little girl who didn't know anything about politics or government, just that things looked like they would always get better and better.





And that would have been nice to remember.

Comments

[tariana.livejournal.com]

I believe my mom was at one of his last speeches when she was in college. She didn't meet him or shake his hand or anything, but she said on the way out of the theater he passed within a few feet of her and she saw him clearly, at least.

You have to wonder how things would be different.

[mole-caz.livejournal.com]

I remember the day he died as one of the worst of my life [to that point in time]. I was 18 years old and I was in the middle of exams. I had watched with horror the shooting unfold on British TV and had always had a wee bit of a crush on Bobby. When he died the bottom dropped out of my world and I felt wretched. I can't explain it but I suppose it was my adolescent emotions struggling to cope with the death of such a man who had nothing but good to offer the world. I couldn't eat and concentrate on anything and my mother thought I was mad!

Of course I came through the experience but even now, it hurts to look at him and see a life cut short in its prime - what a futile waste and yet his legacy has lived on and his dreams are still out there.

[elderberrywine.livejournal.com]

Man, I remember. (Being an old fart and all.) That was the year I graduated from high school. It was first King, and then Kennedy, and then that summer with the Democratic convention and the Chicago 7. Makes this Democratic primary look like a tea party, I tell you what. And of course Viet Nam. That wasn't just something you saw on TV *coughIraqcough* because of the draft. There was no family, no town, that wasn't impacted by that war. Well, as long as you weren't rich or well-connected, that is. *coughBushcough* College never looked so good.

It was one helluva year to get tossed out into the world, that's for sure.

[celandine-g.livejournal.com]

Thank-you for sharing your lovely thoughts and memories. I too remember that night and hearing the news while driving home from school--I was an undergrad at Cal State, LA. Sigh, I remember the horror of it--all the worse from having lived through JFK's assasination a few years before (I was in high school then).

These two guys had a vision and ambition for this country that we have not seen since but of course we will never know what they might have done. It would have definitely been better than the people we have elected since then. But I think our system in general selects against the visionaries for to get elected, you have to dilute your ideas so badly (to please everyone) that most good people are attracted to other professions where they can stand for something. Notice what happened to the people in this election who were really saying something and refused to back down.

Ah well, that's what we get, I guess. But yes, I do remember when America was really alive and the only place I would ever live or support--not anymore, though, not after eight years of seeing the unraveling of the American spirit and "vision" into something unrecognizable. I wonder if Bobby could get elected today. Interesting. I don't know.