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[serai]

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So I just found out my mom has cancer. It's in her lungs. She tells me she's going to get a CAT scan to see if it's migrated to her brain, and then she'll start meeting with an oncologist. She feels good, at least she doesn't feel sick other than a couple of things she's been dealing with for years, so we're hopeful. But she's in her late 80's, and I don't know how much chemo or anything else will really help her. Now I'm thankful that I live in this little house behind my parents, because I can help her with anything she needs. She's scared, of course, and so are the rest of us (we haven't told any of the kids). I told her to ask about mental health care, as she'll need someone to give her advice and techniques on how to manage her emotional state. (She has essential tremors, which are made worse by stress, so she is going to need this kind of help, as well.)

I'm really scared. I don't want to lose my mom, even though I know it's inevitable. I can't imagine being without her.

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[shirebound]

What frightening news, my friend. Your mom is so lucky you're there for her. Please keep us updated, and remember that this is a great place to share, and vent, and get support. I'm in total denial about losing either of my parents -- they're both in their upper 80s.

(My 65-year-old sister-in-law has essential tremors, and my brother is starting to get them too. They're both going to be needing my help more than ever in the next years, as well as my elderly parents, and I'm glad I moved back here more than ever. (Even though it's COLD.) We need to stay as healthy as possible.

*so much love to you*

[ink_gypsy]

Such terrible news. I'm so sorry. Being close to your mother will be a comfort to both of you during this terrible time. It's difficult to lose a parent at any age. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss both of mine.

[shirebound]

I've been thinking about you a lot recently, my friend, and hoping you're doing okay.