So just out of curiosity...

[serai]

...how do you guys deal with seeing people go on about how "lovely" someone is, when your experience tells you that person is actually not nearly so "lovely"?

Because you know, it can get a bit tiring.

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[honeyandvinegar.livejournal.com]

Uhhhm... well, I had to deal with this once in the most EXCRUCIATING way. A girl from my graduating class had died in a car accident with her friends (dunno if it involved drinking or not, can't remember), and her son had ended up marrying another girl I'd graduated/at the time worked with. Said friend had a baby shower later on, and the mom was there. Her son was very nice--but there were TONS of probs with the dad, who'd actually been found out as the murderer in a local case, once DNA testing came into play. So this woman was NOT stable with everything that had gone on. I felt bad for her, but when the subject of her daughter came up, she started gushing all about "oh, she was SO NICE to everyone... she was friends with anyone, she loved people..."

I had to grit my teeth and smile, instead of saying, "Yea, I remember when she gave my good friend TMJ after kicking her in the face repeatedly one day!"

I guess I'd say to grin and bear it. Sometimes it just tears you apart, but if this person is "not as lovely", it's a sure bet that many others agree... they're just not saying anything.

[honeyandvinegar.livejournal.com]

Er... I'd meant "her brother had ended up marrying" etc.... Der hey.